A long distance relationship is a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis. They are also known as LDR couples .They are lovers who has to live separately due to reasons like education, work, family issues and due to many more similar things. It is not always that they are separated by any reason. LDR also occurs when two people meet on social media and are from different places. Nowadays long distance relationships are common between youths. LDRs are particularly prevalent among college students- constituting 25% to 50% of all LDRs. Social media plays a huge role in LDR. People meet on these platforms and start seeing each other. Eventually it leads to relationships.
Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken.
Nobody says it is going to be easy — the extra distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest, being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship .Long distance relationship may be tough but it has its own surprises too. Knowing how to make a long distance relationship work can be tricky.
Here are some stats about LDRs :
- 4.5 months – the average time before a long distance relationship breaks down
- 40 % of all long distance relationships ends with a break-up
- 70 % of all failed long distance relationships fails due to unplanned changes
So what should be done to make a long distance relationship work :
- Meet in person as soon as possible
There are all sorts of things you can only learn about someone face to face, but the initial reason why it’s a good idea to meet in person ASAP is simple: You may have great chemistry on paper or over the phone, and absolutely none in person.
- Avoid excessive communication
It is generally believed that people in LDR should be in touch for 24*7. But this is not true, if a couple is in continuous touch, ultimately the things would get worse. The element of love will slowly start decreasing.
- Do things together
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about. This is good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.
4. Talk dirty with each other
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with intimate talks.
5.Make visits to each other
Visits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. which are all common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships.
6.Talk honest with each other
Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
7. Video-call each other whenever possible
Because looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can make everything feel alright again.
So at last to make a LDR happy, both the partners should contribute equally. Blaming each other will make things worse.