Long Distance Relationships

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A long distance relationship is a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis. They are also known as LDR couples .They are lovers who has to live separately due to reasons like education, work, family issues and due to many more similar things. It is not always that they are separated by any reason. LDR also occurs when two people meet on social media and are from different places. Nowadays long distance relationships are common between youths.  LDRs are particularly prevalent among college students- constituting 25% to 50% of all LDRs. Social media plays a huge role in LDR. People meet on these platforms and start seeing each other. Eventually it leads to relationships.

Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken.

Nobody says it is going to be easy — the extra distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest, being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship .Long distance relationship may be tough but it has its own surprises too. Knowing how to make a long distance relationship work can be tricky.

Here are some stats about LDRs :

  • 4.5 months – the average time before a long distance relationship breaks down
  • 40 % of all long distance relationships ends with a break-up
  • 70 % of all failed long distance relationships fails due to unplanned changes

So what should be done to make a long distance relationship work :

  1. Meet in person as soon as possible

There are all sorts of things you can only learn about someone face to face, but the initial reason why it’s a good idea to meet in person ASAP is simple: You may have great chemistry on paper or over the phone, and absolutely none in person.

 

  1. Avoid excessive communication

It is generally believed that people in LDR should be in touch for 24*7. But this is not true, if a couple is in continuous touch, ultimately the things would get worse. The element of love will slowly start decreasing.

  1. Do things together

Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about. This is good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.

4. Talk dirty with each other

Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with intimate talks.

 

5.Make visits to each other

Visits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. which are all common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships.

 

6.Talk honest with each other

Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.

7. Video-call each other whenever possible

Because looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can make everything feel alright again.

So at last to make a LDR happy, both the partners should contribute equally. Blaming each other will make things worse.

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The Introverts

    Introverts are the people who prefer living along rather than enjoying the company of others. They are considered as people who are shy or who have social phobia . They are the people who don’t open up easily. They always keep things to themselves . They are people who take time to gel up with other people.

    But many a times they are considered as egoist . Others think that those people are not willing to join them . It happens very often that in a group of friends all are talking and sharing things with each other but one or two of them are just sitting or they are busy with their cell phone. The real reason is that they are not used to all these type of talks , it’s a task which is difficult for them. They have a lot to share but they can’t do it.

     In some cases introverts have great talent but they are not able to share it with others. The good thing about them is that once they gel up with people they are so comfortable with them . If you want to know an introvert observe them when they are  among those persons with whom they are most comfortable. You’ll see a lot of change in them. They will be seen talking, laughing and an extrovert at huge . 

     You should understand an introvert and help them to become an extrovert. Sometimes due to some people they feel that they are not up to their expectations and as a result they become more nervous and hence an introvert. So these people should be given more attention and help which they need.  There are also many myths about introverts some of them are: 

         1. Introverts don’t like to talk.

   This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

        2. Introverts are rude

    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. 

      3. Introverts are weird 

    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

      4. Introverts don’t know how to relax            have fun.

   Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers . If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down.

  So at least I would suggest that don’t judge  introverts until you know them fully.  

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Kind Hearted people..


People with kind heart see the best in other people. They are always available for your help no matter what is the problem. They always try to appreciate your performance.They support you when you need it the most. They are easy to deal with.

     But the problem with the society is that they take them for granted. They think that those people are always available for them no matter how you care them. They are at times left with loneliness. They help others in the best possible manner but in return they get nothing other than rejection or ignorance in many cases. They keep aside their priorities to help you. They lift you up when are at your worst.       

      The word “busy” doesn’t include in their dictionary. They are there for you 24*7. They appreciate you for taking even a small step for success. They are the people who don’t mind working behind the scenes and letting others to take the credit. They are the reason for success in your life.

      Remember not to commit a mistake which will make the kind hearted person to turn their backs. Once they stop helping you , you’ll be not able to grow in your life. You should respect them and give them the price they deserve. They are never demanding but you Should understand what should they get for their work. You should praise them for never ending help. Never let a good heart to give up on you. It will be the worst mistake in your entire life.

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My First Blog

As I thought so much what to write I came with an idea of writing this.

I am writing my first blog today. Earlier I used to wonder about writing blogs but it came as a wind and blew off .

So the story goes like this :

Today when I get encountered with a friend’s blog I got enthusiastic and decided to write one.I downloaded the WordPress application and the first problem which came was the username. I can’t really come up with all these “cool usernames😁” so I thought and finally came up with one. So now I am making an effort from today to write blogs. Hope you all will like them.

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